Last year I found myself saying to my boyfriend, “sometimes I forget things, like my keys and that you love me.”
So I will be the first to admit that it can be a bit of a wild ride dating someone with ADD because our personalities have some special quirks.
I will always be more forgetful than most and may need a little help finding my keys. And my phone. And my sunglasses. Sometimes I will get all wound up and energetic at inconvenient times. I may be a little hypersensitive, but that gives me greater compassion. I will probably be more anxious than most people and maybe even a little needy once in a while. But it’s because I love deeply and fully.
Despite these “challenges,” I reject the idea that dealing with all these unique tendencies makes us difficult to love. In the past, I’ve had people get angry at me for being forgetful or a little spacey from time to time. But I’ve come to embrace that my ADD also helps me bring so many wonderful things to my relationships. So I refuse to feel ashamed.
Those of us with ADD offer something special in our dating lives. We will be more fun, more spontaneous and more willing to adventure on a whim. Our hypersensitivity makes us more open, loving, emotive and caring. While sometimes our hyperactivity may flare up at the wrong moment, it will surely be entertaining to watch. Knowing more about our own mental health helps bring a rare level of self-awareness to our dating life and having overcome some adversity because of our ADD in and out of the classroom, we are more empathetic and compassionate when others are suffering.
So find a partner who can learn to love all of your quirks and embrace the fun and joy that comes with your ADD. And if they’re really the one, hope that they also have a knack for finding your keys.